Seven Steps to Saving a Relationship

by Hunter Riley

If you think saving a relationship is worth it in the long run, than the following lesson and tips will help you out greatly. Imgagine John never being at home because of work and Mary feeling he never wants to spend time with her. Mary is constantly watching over the children and John believes that she doesn't have time for his wants and needs. Is it possible to save this realtionship? What follows are 7 great tips for saving a relationship....Any relationship.

1st, you've got to be totally honest with yourself and really figure out if your relationship is worth saving. Almost any relationship is capable of being saved if you put in a good effort, but both of you have to choose to work on the relationship. If one of you isn't committed to saving a relationship, then the chances of a successful reunion go down.

Staying together because of kids or because its conveinent is what many people do, but in the long run this doesn't always work out and it may make each of you even more miserable. Saving a relationship begins with both of you really believing that your relationship is worth the effort its going to take to fix it.

Now that you've decided the relationship is worth saving, you have to be brutally honest and figure out exactly what the problems in your relationship are. Most people wrongly believe that the symptoms of the issues or problems are really the problems themselves, but they're not!

As an example, most people assume that an affair causes a relationship to end. But the affair is really just a "tremor" or symptom of a mush bigger issue. If a couple really is drifting apart and lacks intamacy, this can sometimes cause a spouse to cheat. In this case, the affair isn't the problem! Lack of intamacy, which caused the affair, is the real problem and is what you need to solve if you want to save a relationship. Many people focus all their time on fixing the tremors or symptoms of problems, without even addressing the real issue.

Its only when you stop fooling yourself and decide to deal with "core issues" that saving a relationship becomes possible.

After you have your "core issues" figured out, then you should calmly state your feelings about them. Say exactly what you think about the problem and let your partner say exactly what they think. Really listen to what they are saying instead of thinking about what to say next when they are talking. Grab his or her hand when you are talking about the issue. This will show that you are trying to reconnect on a deep level. If your partner talks about issues that are painful for you just remember that it is in the name of saving a relationship and do your best to keep your composure.

Now that you have the problems in your relationship figured out and openly discussed, come up with a road map to solving them. A step by step map. Start taking those steps immediately. Baby step if you have to, but take some type of action towards saving your relationship every day. For instance, if you don't see each other too often, one step could be reserved time to see each other each week. If you don't have time for a weekly "date night", try to plan a mini-date night. Do whatever is possible even if its only a little bit, be creative.

If one of your main issues is communication, one of the steps in your map could be chatting for 15 minutes before you go to sleep every evening about your day, anything thats on your mind etc. Make it a habit. Do this every night and your communication will become a million times better.

Remember, saving a relationship isn't easy. Be a fast apologizer and a slow blamer and be sure to have a plan!

If you are serious about saving your relationship, A buddy of mine actually has created a step by step system that has helped over 6100 people in 67 different countries save their relationship.

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